April 7, 2020 my husband and I celebrated our 19th wedding Anniversary. And I have to honestly say, we made it here through prayer, faith and a lot of arguments! Yes, arguments. I know many will probably say, “How can that be a healthy relationship if you are arguing?” Well my answer to you is... if you are not arguing at least once in a while, then that’s an unhealthy relationship. Why? Because no two people are going to agree all the time. It’s impossible. And sometimes in the heat of those disagreements, we tend to get a little upset or stubborn, especially If you’re a Taurus like me! There’s nothing wrong with a little honest confrontation with words, and nothing physical. Physical abuse is never acceptable!
To be in a long lasting relationship, we must be transparent enough to allow our true thoughts and feelings be expressed to our partner. Even if they don’t agree. Because if we don’t speak our truth, then they will assume your feelings and thoughts. And you know what they say about assumptions. Or your spouse will be turning to a different listening ear and I promise you, you don’t want that. But please don’t misconstrue what I am saying. I’m not saying to be verbal abusive to one another. Extremely not. I’m saying that there’s no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship, and there will be times of disagreement and heated debates. Because two different people mean two different personalities. No matter how much you have in common, you will clash at some point and time. And when that happens, don’t freak out. It’s okay not to be in agreement all the time. And I share this because there are many married couples that believe if they disagree or argue during the course of there marriage, it means there marriage is failing. No, that’s not what it means. It simply means you are human. But if both of you find yourself at a place where you are arguing all the time about almost everything, then maybe it’s time for you two to seek marriage counseling. And even if it comes to that point, it’s still okay. Especially when you’ve been married for as many years as my husband I have! Sometimes married couples just need a relationship tune up or their battery recharged. Marriage is an emotional rollercoaster. It can drive anyone crazy lol! So needing to tap out sometime for some R&R is understandable. Once again, it’s okay! Just remember the love is still there even when you are disagreeing😊