FULL-TIME MOMMY RUT

Updated: May 13, 2020



I'm quite sure many full time moms will agree. It's easy to just throw on your favorite plush robe, pull your hair back and call it a day. Being a full time mother attracts laziness when it comes to caring for ourselves! And for me, a robe is even more convenient because my daughters are schooled from home. So, who cares about what I am wearing? Or what my hair looks like. That's what we assume anyway. I don't even need to leave the house for most days. It shouldn't matter what I look like right. Right?

Wrong! Mother's we are more than just soccer moms and wives. We have things to do and places to go. Don't let that "Stuck in a Mommy Rut" mood take over your life. And trust me it will if you let it. I was in that rut for a long time. I used to lounge around in my pajamas, no makeup when I went out, and my hair only styled for special occasions. It became routine. Leggings became my best friend. Sure, I made certain I looked my best when going out, but that didn't happen very often. Other than trips to the park, doctor appointments or the grocery store. Needless to say, those outings didn't require much effort. Also, the fact that my husband and I weren't going on regular date nights back then didn't help the situation either. And to be honest, if it wasn't for Cancer, I'd probably still be in that Rut! After being diagnosed with the disease five years ago and surviving, my entire outlook on life changed. I stopped taking life for granted and I started living. I realized that I am more than just a full time wife and mother. Not saying that those roles aren't important. I'm just saying my goals and aspirations are just as important. And I started to understand that in order for me to achieve the career I wanted, I had to dress for the occasion. So, that's when the rut turned into a strut. Every morning I would wake up. Thank God. Look into the mirror and tell myself how amazing I was. I would put on my makeup. Not too much, but just enough to care! Then put on my best outfit, cook and do school with the kids. And afterwards, work on my goals. Rather it was calling prospective clients, meeting with clients or shopping for inventory. It was straight boss moves. And this went on for five years. Until my body said enough is enough. I was so busy living in each day to the fullest, I was forgetting to take care of myself the way I should.

So, this year I took some much needed R&R, and really just enjoyed each day. With the help of my amazing and hard working husband, I was able to travel with our daughters. I enjoyed good food and good people. I have been able to focus on school and my passion for interior design. I even started this new little thing call Tasha the Devoted Wife blog. I can definitely say, being in a rut is not the place to be. Their were many days of depression that no one even knew about. Some days I didn't even want to get out of bed, listen to music or see anyone. It was a very lonely place to be. But thankfully, prayer and my two beautiful angels that I call daughters, gave me the motivation I needed. The motivation to rise above that dark phase of my life.

It wasn't easy though! But I did it. And you can too ladies. So, strut your stuff and leave behind the rut! We have so much more to offer than being a caregiver and significant other. We are natural born innovators and creators. And it all begins with a little TLC for yourself. So, instead of that old worn out mommy robe with frazzled hair. How about a cute oversized Duster with a tank top and jeans. With stretch of course. Or how about a relaxed Maxi dress with a cute pair of fury slides and pedicured toes. Once again. Cute, but comfy! And take a few minutes to give yourself a cute and simple hairstyle with a little foundation and lip gloss. Just a little goes a long way.

So, to all my devoted Full-Time Moms, remember you are important too! And don't forget to give your best to yourself, as often as possible. This will help avoid the mommy rut and make you a mommy that strut!


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